Ben Skute
Gone are the days of turning up to bars and being able to pick up a guy without worrying about whether he is right in a long-term scenario and whether you wanna settle down. Once you reach the age of 40+ your thoughts and wants from dating/relationship are different. So below are tips and advice to make sure you keep the important aspects of dating in mind.
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#1 Be Self-Supporting
He may be supporting an ex-wife and his children. He's probably not looking for more dependents.
Contributors: Elliott Katz from ElliottKatz
#2 Ask About His Children
If the person you are dating has children, ask about them. Be supportive of his parenting efforts. If his commitment to his children is an issue to you, this may not be the right relationship for you.
Contributors: Elliott Katz from ElliottKatz
#3 If You Have An Ex, Don’t Bad Mouth Him
If you have an ex, don't bad mouth him. The man you're with probably has an ex who is badmouthing him. He doesn't want to hear it. In fact, don't talk about your ex at all. He may think that the way you talk about your ex is the way you will later talk abut him.
Contributors: Elliott Katz from ElliottKatz
#4 Definitely Use Dating Websites
Many couples meet on dating sites today and there is no shame! Each site is different, and they use important information so it's almost like getting to the second date before you even meet. You can learn about what someone looks like, what they want out of a relationship, their interests, their pet peeves, and more which can help you make an informed choice of who to date.
Contributors: Kristen A. Cocchia from Growth Therapy, LLC
#5 Say Yes To Every Opportunity!
Is your cousin inviting you over for a BBQ? Did you see a flyer for a book club? Feel like going for a hike? You never know who you can meet just through your existing social network. Many women don't give themselves the chance by avoiding new social situations and only sticking to what is comfortable.
Contributors: Kristen A. Cocchia from Growth Therapy, LLC
#6 Make Him Feel Like He’s In Charge
Here's a super cool tip for women in their 40s. Some men love it when you play around like an immature teenager; it triggers their sense of responsibility and they shower you with affection and care. In short, make him feel like he's the man in charge. If you're interested in an older guy, do NOT make the first move. They've got to have the guts to tell you how you feel.
Do NOT let him be submissive or overly possessive. If you ever feel that happening, take a step back and tell him how you feel immediately. This applies to you too, ladies.
Contributors: Carol Sugar Burke from Bespoke Matchmaking
#7 Get Out And About Doing The Things You Love
At 40 you want to be your best self! That might mean getting involved in hobbies or activities that you find fun, meaningful, or enjoyable. By exposing ourselves to people and places we deem important or entertaining we then have an opportunity to meet new people and find potential dating partners.
Contributors: Tara Arhakos from Mindful Moments, LLC
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