Ben Skute
So you’ve been dating this girl for a while now, but how do you know if she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with?
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#1 No Checked Baggage
The girl who is right for me can go anywhere in the world without having to check a bag! I know it's hard to believe, but my girlfriend showed up on our first trip together, to Europe and Africa, with nothing but a carry-on. I asked her where her big bag was, and she said she didn't have one. I couldn't believe it. I thought, this is definitely the girl for me!
Contributors: Dan Nainan from ComedianDan
#2 Focus on the Feelings
The big question to ask yourself is: How do I FEEL when I'm around this girl? It's not about how she looks standing next to you. It's about what's different and special when you're around her. Does you feel respected, admired, valued, secure? Do you feel relaxed and loved? Does she boost your self-confidence? Do you feel like you're her man? Or are you always on guard, afraid of slipping up and saying the wrong thing? Are you competing with her when it comes to looks, athletics, grades or job status? That's a tough road to walk long-term. Competition isn't usually healthy in a romantic relationship. You want SUPPORT instead.
Contributors: Rosalind Sedacca from WomenDatingRescue
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Valuable advice/guidance. Sarena
#3 Girl or Woman
Let’s start with the fact that if you’re looking for a “girl” in a relationship, you’re in trouble. Look for a woman before deciding, unless you want the relationship to be one where you (the man) are doing all the caretaking. And if you’re looking for a “girl,” ask yourself, “Are you still a boy, or are you ready to be a man?”
Contributors: Jean M. Campbell from Action Institute of California
#4 Willing To Work On Relationship
You’re both willing to put in a similar about of effort (time, communication, therapy, sex talk) to make it work. Relationships require work. If one of you believes that fate will carry you through to happily ever after and the other believes that you need to formally invest in the relationship (e.g. take courses, formalize conversations, discuss needs and boundaries), you’re probably not going to stand the test of time.
Contributors: Jess O'Reilly from Astroglide
#5 You’re sexually compatible.
Compatibility is about effort — not sameness. You can be into different things and not share the same intensity of sex drive and still be compatible IF you’re both willing to work to meet the other's needs.
Contributors: Jess O'Reilly from Astroglide
#6 Similar attitude toward the role of your families in your lives
This doesn’t mean that you share the same types of relationships, but simply that you share similar values AND you’re willing to adjust your expectations to meet your partner’s and vice versa.
Contributors: Jess O'Reilly from Astroglide
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