As Valentine’s Day looms large, let’s take time to appreciate the power of being single. As a single person, your life is entirely your own. You can explore your passions, take risks, or just sit on the couch with your pet gerbil eating out of the same bag of Valentine’s candy (as long as that’s safe for the gerbil). Here are some quotes to get you through Valentine’s Day, proving once and for all that you can celebrate love without being in a relationship.
- Being alone can be deeply rewarding. Take it from Oscar Wilde: “I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.”
- A relationship shouldn’t define your perception of yourself. Delta Burke understands this first and foremost: “I don’t like to be labeled as lonely just because I am alone.” Because you’re not alone.
- Loneliness meets everyone at some point in their lives. You can run from it, or you can take Elizabeth Gilbert’s advice: “When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely, Liz. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings.” Well said!
- The grass is always greener on the other side, right? Single people lament the days of togetherness with an ex, and people in new relationships reminisce about the freedoms of single life. Both choices are valid, and both come with their own set of benefits and disadvantages. According to Mandy Hale, being “single is an opportunity to live life on your own terms and not apologize.” Sounds pretty nice, doesn’t it?
- We’ve all been told happiness lies within. Finding that happiness is a test of courage and conviction. According to Thomas Merton, “If we seek paradise outside ourselves, we cannot have paradise in our hearts.” Look to yourself first; you’ll be surprised at what you find.
- There’s one person who’s always going to be there for you, and that’s you. Make the most of that by loving yourself despite your faults. To quote Oscar Wilde once again, “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”
- You determine what it means to be whole and happy. Khang Nguyen tells us that, “Being alone is not synonymous with incompleteness. Having a partner is not a precondition for completeness.”Your future happiness starts with your current state of mind.