Ultimately most arguments come down to someone having had their feelings hurt. They may have felt their mate was inconsiderate, disrespectful, or insensitive. However, they may feel to state it that way is to come off as being weak so they choose to lash out instead. Nevertheless, if you are aware that the yelling is coming from a place of pain it’s easier to neutralize by being calm instead of fighting fire with fire.
You understand you may have unintentionally slighted her in some way and can offer some genuine empathy along with why you didn’t think she would mind.
Contributor: Kevin Darne