If the transgression where affects you once you should let it pass. Give the person the benefit of the doubt. But the second time you see it; where it affects you, take the person aside in a non-confrontational tone of voice and relaxed facial expression and say,
“You can work any way you want. That’s your choice. The one way you cannot is when it negatively affects me. I will not allow anyone to cause me not to perform to the level I want and when you ________ that affects me. So here is what I want and what I don’t want regarding ______. Get it? Any questions? Good.”
If they repeat their behavior take aside again and ask, “What part of this don’t you understand. I don’t let anyone cause me to do a poor job and you are because of ______. So here is what I want and what I don’t want regarding ________”.
If it’s a third time, take the person aside and say, “You are requiring more work on my part than I’m willing to give. I’m going to talk to our manager about this situation. You are welcome to be in on the conversation. But I repeatedly told you that I will not let someone cause me not to work my work.” I guarantee one of those steps will stop that person’s behavior — at least around you!
Contributors: Debra Benton from CEOwhisperer