Ben Skute
Whether you are in a relationship, or simply crushing on someone, there are some clear signs that you are too attached. Even if your partner is equally as obsessed with you, your actions and attitudes could be dangerous.
Here are some of the biggest signs that you’re too attached to your partner and that you should take a step back:
#1 You don’t do anything without your partner
Independence is crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship. While it is nice to spend time with your significant other, it is important to be comfortable doing things alone.
Excuses like “my partner had to work late so I did not have time to go to the gym,” are apparent warning signs that you are too attached to your partner.
Contributors: Kayla Kalinski from WhatsYourPrice
#2 Use “we” instead of “I” in talking about independent decisions
When you respond to questions like “what are you up to this weekend?” or “what do you want for dinner?” with “we did this,” or “we want that,”, it is a major red flag that you are too attached to your partner. Again, it all boils down to independence. Be mindful when responding to people with “we” instead of “I” unless they specifically ask you about you and your partner.
Contributors: Kayla Kalinski from WhatsYourPrice
#3 You no longer function as an individual
A healthy relationship involves some level of dependence on each other. Where it starts to become unhealthy is when this dependence is one-sided and consuming. Have you stopped spending time with your friends? Do you only ever see your friends if your partner wants to come along too? Maybe you’ve dropped your favorite sports or hobbies to take up the same ones as your partner. Whatever the case may be, if you’ve selectively given up your independence, you’re too attached! The good news is, there’s still time to fix this. You don’t have to break up with them, just start taking small steps to regain this independence.
Contributors: James Anderson from BeyondAges
#4 You get emotional (angry or sad)
Imagine a parent that is dropping off their kid at school and the kid starts crying after the parent leaves. If you're feeling too attached to your partner, you might feel intense feelings like sadness or anger when your partner has to leave for a short period of time.
Contributors: Lauryn Huang from Grouvly
#5 Your emotional staibility is shaken by reationship bumps
When the connection with your partner is your main source of emotional stability, so when there are some bumps, you are suddenly feeling very alone and sad/angry. Though the connection with your partner is an important connection to maintain, it becomes a problem when it is the only source of emotional stability in your life.
Contributors: Lauryn Huang from Grouvly
#6 All your plans revolve around what your partner has going on
When you turn down plans with your friends or family because your partner is not interested or available, you are showing signs of excessive attachment. It is healthy and important to do things with your loved ones without your significant other.
Contributors: Kayla Kalinski from WhatsYourPrice
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