Telling someone to shut-up sounds harsh, but sometimes we need to hear that advice. Listening is hard to do, and most arguments for young couples happen because one person thinks they’re not being heard. It’s one thing to hear your partner’s complaints, it’s another thing to really listen to them. This takes patience, and it involves active listening–taking the time to let your partner know, both verbally and nonverbally that you’re listening to what they’re saying.
Contributor: Adam C. Earnheardt, Ph.D