We sometimes assume too much and accuse too much, and we feel we have every right to do so. Even if we do, there is a good chance that it will all backfire due to anger and misspeaking. By using sentences which include “you” AND “I”, rather than just “you”, we open the door to negotiation and self-expression. This is what a partnership is. And a big part of arguing is side-stepping the nasty parts and getting to the point where new information comes to light.
Contributor: Caleb Backe