Make a list of the reasons why you are not a good fit together. This is not a list of all the reasons you hate them or what makes them a bad person. That will just get your emotions flared up and make it harder to move forward (anger can keep us stuck!). Focus on areas of mismatch such as values, interests, communication styles, activity level, family, ambition, spirituality, etc. Carry this list with you or snap a picture to have on your phone so that you can remind yourself in moments of nostalgia or weakness.
Contributor: Heather McKenzie from mckenziecounseling.org