Among those who have reconciled for more than a short period or between episodic estrangements, there was either agreements to let bygones be bygones or continued family counseling. Among these, parties still viewed the reconciliations as stressful, but they felt good about trying and were motivated to work it out. Sometimes, the motivation derives from related relationships the parties valued, such as grandchildren or extended family.
Contributor: Sheri McGregor, M.A. at Done With The Crying and rejected parents
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Always bygones, never facing the music
My daughter would never agree to counselling. My son has been in therapy for years. Not sure about this one.
Narcissistic people do not agree to counseling. Neither do people with borderline personality disorder. These two groups are most likely to be the children you are estranged from. What does this person have her M.A. degree in????
I have BPD and have been in therapy and have actually grown and learned to manage my issues. People are NOT just a diagnosis. Don’t be so judgmental
Narcissistic here . . . Suppose that is why we are still where we are 5 years later.
Finally someone who spoke sense.
Therapists agree – you need to deal with the past before moving forward.
Exactly. If you don’t deal with the past it will come to haunt you again.
My daughter isn’t healed and doesn’t want to revisit the past, but this is true.